The Guide To Tantric Yoni Massage: Techniques, Benefits & Instructions

Yoni massage is a sexual tantra practice that involves massaging the vagina, which is called yoni in Sanskrit and loosely translates to “a sacred space.” Yoni massage allows you time to slowly explore your body in a more sensual way. It can help people who usually feel finished after one orgasm to achieve multiple orgasms, and it’s especially beneficial for people with vaginas who have never had an orgasm. It can also be very healing for those who have suffered sexual trauma in their past because the approach and technique is all about giving—making the vagina owner feel loved, cherished, worshipped, and honored.

How to give a yoni massage

1. Set the scene.

As you must when exploring all new things, start with an open mind, open heart, and no judgment of yourself or your body. Lie on your back in a comfortable place with a pillow under your hips, your knees up, and your feet on the ground. Have your favorite massage oil handy. I prefer coconut oil for its silky feel and sensual aroma.

2. Connect to your breath.

Breathwork is a key element in any tantric sex practice. The one we’ll use here is called Bliss Breath. Constrict the back of your throat, inhale, and hear a whispering sound. Then exhale and release that sound again. Continue to take deep, slow, and audible breaths.

This grounds you in your body and keeps you out of your head, and it helps to spread the orgasmic energy throughout your body. We don’t want the energy just in your clitoris. This type of deep breathing can help move that energy from the yoni to all parts of your body.

3. Warm up.

While clitoral stimulation is great foreplay for sexual intercourse, a body massage or tantric breast massage is a great warm-up for the yoni massage. The goal here is to get relaxed and slowly build arousal.

Start with some coconut oil on the belly and gently massage there. The belly is an often overlooked area of the body but has many nerve endings. Massage the rib cage, between the breasts, and the lower abdomen.

Once the body begins to respond, slowly circle the breasts before circling the areolae—don’t touch the nipples yet. Once the person’s body responds more, begin to tease the nipples by alternating between circles and light pinching, and between light, medium, and strong touches.

Once you’ve warmed the body up with a breast massage and nipple stimulation, it’s time to move into the main yoni massage techniques.